Odd things
I lurk on a Bereaved Parent Message Board. I do not post much these days but some how find comfort in reading.
I have noticed a few things in the past 3 years. There are things that the Bereaved Parents talk about that no parent should ever have to worry about much less discuss on a Message Board!
1. Did you put your baby’s middle name on their headstone?
2. What outfit did you bury your baby in?
3. Concerns over Airport Security with Cremated Remains
4. I must not be a mother, I never got to feel that Love.
5. Happy Angel Day. Instead of Happy Birthday.
6. Poems and Songs about the death of a child are everywhere on these Message Boards.
Here is one I recently found that I like
Little Snowdrop
The world may never notice
If a Snowdrop doesn’t bloom,
Or even pause to wonder
If the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way
For all eternity.
The little one we long for
Was swiftly here and gone.
But the love that was then planted
Is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty,
Our hearts know what to do.
Every beating of our hearts
Says that we love you.
– Author Unknown –
Holidays are very hard, especially Mothers day and Fathers day. There are many posts about how to deal with their own pain for these holidays and also how to deal with Society not recognizing that they are indeed parents.
But whats hard for me is seeing the new names the new losses on these Boards. Moms and Dads everyday join this exclusive club that no one wants to be a member of.
Kim